So as I get ready to join my urban sisters to observe another chapter in the Sex and the City saga, I’m reflective of availability as it pertains to relationships. I’ve been recently re-viewing the old episodes of the sitcom and just watched the episode where Carrie starts to feel that Aidan is “too available” to her. Hmmmm?? This sounds vaguely familiar…. Are we more drawn to those we sense are unavailable either emotionally or physically? Do we need the challenge to make the relationship worthwhile? In discussions with friends about this issue, its definitely not something that is unusual. We all have our “Mr. Big’s”, someone with whom we’ve…

I could get used to this. Hot coffee brewing while I’m getting dressed, poured and ready to take with me as I head out the door for the office. Healthy, balanced meal ready and waiting for me when I get home. Dishes washed soon after they are used. House tidy and neat. This could be heaven for the 8 to 5 working class. But is it? Of course not. Why? Because with all this comes a catch. Of course there’s a catch. And his name is Michael. Michael, the 7 year old running around my house who is a terror and watches cartoons all night. This is definitely not heaven…

This is a very difficult process to muddle through. From approximately 50 characteristics, I have to decide my Top 10 Must Haves in a partner and from a different set of 50 ~ the Top 10 Can’t Haves. Originally, I misread the directions and didn’t know I had a limit, so my Must Haves list started with 34. Yeah, the submit button didn’t quite allow that to process through. Seriously, how can one prioritize only 10 traits another person must have to be deemed worthy in ones’ eyes? Okay, perhaps I’m starting to see how people say I’m picky. Truthfully though, most of these are very important and it’s very…

I don’t even know why I’m even doing this. I currently am not a fan of boys right now. Life is so much more pleasantly calm without them. I don’t need to be another casualty in some guy’s path of self-discovery or become roadkill in his effort to fill some internal emptiness that he can’t fill on his own. So why the fuck am I doing this? Because I’m sick of doing things the hard way by working through my own shit before putting it upon anyone else. Right now, it’s all about being selfish and not giving a fuck about anyone else. It’s whatever is going to make me…

Some of these choices I have to make are forcing me to make some tough decisions…a hard thing for an indecisive Libra. Having to create these hard lines in the sand with the end goal of drawing out the perfect mate is really taxing me. Anyway, back to the questionnaire. I need to be honest. This is a process of getting exactly what I want as opposed to settling for what’s around me. Yeah, honestly…I don’t want a smoker. I do want someone with a certain level of education. I want someone who makes a certain amount of money…not so they can spend it on me, but so I don’t…