What’s your prey?

As we venture into the wild in pursuit of prey, we first need to know what we are hunting. Without a certain species with specific attributes in mind, we are likely to approach our expeditions with disorganization which ultimately results in bagging nothing. With this in mind we should consider the following questions/ steps and carefully ponder what it is we REALLY want to catch. Once we know what it is we want to hang on our wall, we will also know what equipment needs to be sharpened, oiled, restrung or possibly just left behind.

Step 1: Thoroughly describe (without censor) everything that comes to mind you want in a partner.

Step 2: Look at your list and determine where your focus is, more material and interest level or more spiritual? Ask why some of these items are important to you.

Step 3: Rank your list on a 1-3 basis: 1=nonnegotiable, 2=desired, but not essential, 3=nice, but not necessary

Step 4: Based on these lists, write a paragraph describing the person you want to meet. Use 50 words or less and be creative.

Step 5: Narrow your list to 10 crucial words, then 5 and then see if you can find one special word to encompass what you want.

Step 6: Read your paragraph out loud and imagine spending time with the person you’ve described.

At this point, you should have a good idea of what you want to see in the crosshairs. So let’s get out there and start huntin’!

From cane reeds, sugar.
From a worm’s cocoon, silk.

Be patient if you can, and from sour
grapes will come something sweet.

-Rumi, from “Say I am You”

— Troller