Must Haves. Can’t Haves.
This is a very difficult process to muddle through. From approximately 50 characteristics, I have to decide my Top 10 Must Haves in a partner and from a different set of 50 ~ the Top 10 Can’t Haves. Originally, I misread the directions and didn’t know I had a limit, so my Must Haves list started with 34. Yeah, the submit button didn’t quite allow that to process through.
Seriously, how can one prioritize only 10 traits another person must have to be deemed worthy in ones’ eyes? Okay, perhaps I’m starting to see how people say I’m picky. Truthfully though, most of these are very important and it’s very hard to narrow this list down. Well, that’s obvious as I determined almost 3 dozen Must Haves.
Okay, so I got my list down to 12. Now I’m just going to close my eyes and eliminate the last 2. There we go. I have my Top 10. Yay.
As I’m looking at this list, I wonder if the last guy was destined not to work because he didn’t have these Top 10 traits or if this set is NOW my Top 10 because he didn’t have them. Hard to tell at this point but it’s who I am today. Bygones.
Okay, now after this painful exercise I finally get to read someone else’s list. Mr. Claustrophobia, what are yours? Must be deemed attractive which is defined as I must have a partner who is considered “very attractive” by most current standards.Well, part of me is flattered that I fall into this category for this fellow ~ at least enough for him to engage in conversation with me but the other part of me sees big red flags waving. I mean, no doubt I sort of understand. I myself just finished pondering the importance I place on looks and that trait wasin my Top 30 of priorities…but TOP TEN? He chose this over industriousness, kindness, self-confidence and loyalty. So…as long as I’m hot by other people’s standards, I can be a lazy, mean bitch who’s insecure and will stab you in the back. Alright, alright… after reading that I know I can be those things, all at once even, but at least I will do it with a smile on my face. Heh. OH BUT WAIT! I seriously know someone who totally fits that bill. Perhaps I should have them meet.
ADDENDUM
I totally take back my issues with Mr. Claustrophobia’s priority of attractiveness. Through this process I’ve learned that I’m very judgmental about looks. It’s so harsh that I might even put attractiveness in my Top 5 of Must Haves. It’s a bit upsetting as I didn’t realize I was THIS superficial. I swear though, as I’m looking through some of these pictures, all I can wonder is if this is the Ellis Island of dating? Instead of “Give us your poor, your tired, your huddled masses longing to be free…” it’s “Give us your short, your shy, your ugly longing to be loved…”
Yeah, I know…Hell’s waiting.
— Ballyhoo Backcaster