• Inside of the main entrance at the bottom of the stairs
    Adventures & Experiences,  The X-By Project

    Ape Cave

    When I moved to Oregon and met other transplants, one of the popular things they did as they explored the area was to hike Ape Cave.  I never went. I had always heard that you had to go really early because there were heavy crowds. Both of those things didn’t appeal to me, so I always passed. But as I was working on my X-By project and building out my 50 x 50 bucket list, I figured it was time to go.   Reservations Equal Fewer Crowds Just like many things during 2020, Ape Cave was closed. The enclosed quarters didn’t make it an ideal location with all the precautions…

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    Adventures & Experiences,  The X-By Project

    With a Little Help from My Friends

    A common tip for goal setting: manifest something you want by asking the universe for it. Say it out loud, pray for it, meditate, or visualize it with a vision board. Openly sharing your goals with others is also a great way to make them happen. Telling friends, family, and even acquaintances not only creates accountability but can also set unexpected things in motion, such as: You’ll gain a partner in crime. You’ll learn who else wants to do the same things. They may actually want to do them with you. They’ll know someone or something that can help you. You’ll have people to talk through your concerns and/or solve…

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    50 x 50: A Bucket List – The Origin Story

    A few years ago, I had a couple of friends who introduced this X-Before-X, or X-By, idea to me and in full transparency…I stole it. One friend did a 40 By 40 where he had an activity and/or met with a friend every day during the forty days before his 40th birthday. Another friend put together her 50 By 50 list (50 new experiences by the time she turned 50 years old), three years before her golden birthday. Yes, this is very much like a bucket list but one that is set within a targeted time frame to motivate a person to focus on their goals sooner than later and…